✳️ They don't rely on motivation to take action. Remeber motivation is an emotion, sometimes you'll want to, other times you wont. But when you set clear intentions, like I will go to the gym for 30 minutes, 3 times a week, it is easier to just get it done. And when that motivation wind comes... they harness it to it's full potential!
✳️ They look for, and celebrate, the small wins that have nothing to do with their physical appearance or the number on the scale.
Wins like: ate a healthy breakfast everyday this week, got in 10k steps 5 times this week when normally they don't, was able to do squats with the 30lb kettlebell instead of the 25lb kettlebell, got their first perfect pushup, was able to sleep soundly for 8 hours through the night, had more energy, etc. etc.
✳️ They don't put a strict time frame on the weight loss/fitness goals they want to achieve. This goes back to the unrealistic expectations I mentioned earlier. When a time frame is strictly set, there is more pressure to get there, and when we don't, or come super close but just miss it we fail to give ourself credit and feel like failures.
Instead have an idea of that goal and chunk it down into small, daily, aciton goals, like going to the gym x times a week, eating a healthy breakfast everyday, etc. Those are the things that really matter and that you have control over!
✳️ They understand that having fun and enjoying the process is just as important as eating right and going to the gym.
Start practicing eating in moderation, especially those fun and free foods. If you are always saying no and restricting those fun foods, eventually the process will become unrealistic because it isn't enjoyable.
Do include 2-4 (proper portioned) fun/free meals. This way you are nurturing your psychy as much as you do your body with the healthy food and fitness.
✳️ They aren't so hard on themselves!!
Show yourself some damn compassion! Just like you would if a friend came to you and told you the scenerio I shared earlier, that they have been working SO HARD for a month and ONLY lost 4 pounds.
Would you tell them, "Girl! Just quit already!"
If you would, you're a terrible friend.
More than likely you would encourage them, tell them how they are doing everythign right and to keep going! "You came so far and made so many changes with your habits already, don't stop now!"
Most of all remember that mistakes, life, and sh*t happens! You might take a misstep, you might eat a "bad" meal or over induldge sometimes, you won't always feel like it and sometimes that will get the best of you...
Same this happens to those who appear to have it all together and are always motivated...
And just like they deserve the best changes of success so do you!
So ensure you are giving yoruself a fighting chance by showing yourself some compassion, letting go of feeling like you have to be perfect to get to where you want, and remember that as long as you don't give up you will get there!